Never Sound Like You Need the Job
A candidate walks into a final-round interview at a company he's wanted to work at for years.
He's prepared extensively.
He knows the product, the team structure, the competitive landscape.
But the moment the interview starts, something shifts.
His answers get softer.
He says things like "I would be so grateful" and "I've been looking for a role like this for a while." By the end, he's not presenting himself as a peer.
He's presenting himself as a supplicant.
He doesn't get the offer.
Desperation has a quality that interviewers detect immediately.
When you sound like you need the job, the dynamic shifts.
You're no longer a professional evaluating a mutual fit.
You're someone hoping to be chosen.
And people don't hire hopeful supplicants for high-impact roles.
The Mutual Fit Mindset
The best interviews feel like two professionals assessing a potential partnership.
Both sides bring value.
Both sides have standards.
Neither side is doing the other a favor.
This doesn't mean being arrogant.
It means being centered.
You're not above the role and you're not beneath it.
You're exploring whether the fit is genuinely right, for both parties.
"I'm selective about where I work because I know I do my best work in environments that [specific condition].
From what I've seen, your team offers that.
And from what you've described, I offer exactly what you're missing."
Phrases That Kill Your Leverage
Stop saying: "I'd be so grateful for this chance." You're positioning them as a giver and yourself as a receiver.
Stop saying: "I've been searching for a while." This signals that others have passed on you.
Stop saying: "I'd do anything to be part of this team." This lowers your perceived value immediately.
Stop saying: "I know there are more qualified candidates." Why would you say this?
What to Say Instead
Replace desperation with alignment:
"This role checks every box for the kind of impact I want to make right now.
And based on our conversations, I check the boxes for what you need.
That kind of alignment is genuinely rare, and it's why I'm interested in moving forward."
That's confident without being aggressive.
It acknowledges mutual benefit without diminishing your position.
The Posture Test
After the interview, ask yourself: "Did I sound like I was evaluating them as much as they were evaluating me?"
If the answer is no, you gave away too much.
An interview is a two-way assessment.
You bring something they need.
Walking in with that understanding changes how you carry yourself, how you answer questions, and how you're perceived when the hiring conversation happens without you.
The irony: the less you seem to need the job, the more they want to give it to you.
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